tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post2460480184411853475..comments2023-10-28T06:41:48.950-07:00Comments on for vienne: anxiety and self-worthFor Viennehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14239370029818098079noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-65700070909707213872013-09-17T12:32:58.383-07:002013-09-17T12:32:58.383-07:00Thank you always for your encouragement, dear frie...Thank you always for your encouragement, dear friend.For Viennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14239370029818098079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-65504936605866315112013-09-17T12:32:20.975-07:002013-09-17T12:32:20.975-07:00I love you friend. Thank you. I know this reply ...I love you friend. Thank you. I know this reply is WAY overdue....but....ach...well, you know. This last month has been impossible for me.For Viennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14239370029818098079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-83116989214459439322013-09-17T12:31:35.627-07:002013-09-17T12:31:35.627-07:00Lindsay ~ you are so right. Meeting our new coun...Lindsay ~ you are so right. Meeting our new counselor surely gave me new perspective.<br /><br />Thank you for your comment and extension of love. <br />xoxoFor Viennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14239370029818098079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-67152108563200619532013-09-17T12:30:19.618-07:002013-09-17T12:30:19.618-07:00I apologize for such a delayed response...just now...I apologize for such a delayed response...just now finally having the strength and motivation to write back to people....but wanted you to know, Amy, how thankful I am for your comment and just knowing that you stay present by reading my blog and thinking of us. Thank you so much.For Viennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14239370029818098079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-87241617311527539602013-08-16T16:49:43.948-07:002013-08-16T16:49:43.948-07:00Jenny,
Just wanted to tell you that you and Mark h...Jenny,<br />Just wanted to tell you that you and Mark have been on my mind and heart lately. I was touched by what you wrote about anxiety. In my struggles with anxiety, I have found it to be so difficult for a couple of reasons (at least). First, I feel like I am being attacked from the inside. I like to think of myself as a pretty good problem-solver, but when the source seems to be inside me - and it can attack at any time - I don't know what to do. I feel disempowered, lost, frayed and paralyzed. Second, anxiety is so irrational. It seems to attack me by telling me lies - by convincing me of things I know aren't true. Of course, I am not in any way trying to equate our situations. I know the sources of my anxiety are very different from yours. I'll just be praying that, one morning, you will wake up with a profound sense of peace and that it will stay with you throughout the day. <br /><br /> - Mary AliceMary Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14563494751566061706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-39007735146778699652013-08-15T21:25:59.078-07:002013-08-15T21:25:59.078-07:00Jenny, I have not read your blog in a while but ju...Jenny, I have not read your blog in a while but just happened to come on the website today. Even as I write this I have no idea how you feel. I have not lost a child so I don't feel that I will ever understand. I just have a few thoughts, you mentioned that you thought that there was slowness in the recovery, I don't think you should put a time limit on it, you should just do what they say in recovery take it one day at a time. This seems like such a simple thing but I know it is hard. Distraction was another word you used I understand that when things are hard in my life I always look for a distraction. You were such a help in my life when I was pregnant with Maddie, so I understand your compassion, have you thought of doing anything with a pregnancy resource center or something along those lines, from my experience I think you would do well. Another adage I have heard is this too shall pass, you have to believe that you won't be feeling like this forever but maybe you will for a while but with time I am sure you will figure out the best way for you to deal with this loss. Even as I write this these things I feel it is not enough, I am sure these things have probably been said to you in this form or another and maybe you are tired of it but please remember there are many people out there thinking of you, praying for you, and you are not alone. Much love, LauraLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08171204787173126323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-66558754493874432782013-08-07T20:59:34.698-07:002013-08-07T20:59:34.698-07:00Hugs to you. Hugs to you. Kristel Armesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-3167050969357987922013-08-07T10:17:54.522-07:002013-08-07T10:17:54.522-07:00I'm so glad you and Mark found a counselor who...I'm so glad you and Mark found a counselor who is so authentic and compassionate towards you. I really hope along this journey he will help lead you in the direction of having compassion and more care for yourself. Mommy guilt and the strive for perfection is so overwhelming for most, I can imagine that somehow you need to be always perfect, never miss a beat in mothering Ivy to be able to not doubt what a fantastic mother you were to Vienne. You know and I know you gave Vienne a wonderful life here and are an amazing mother. I really hope you can get to a place where that pressure is somewhat lifted. XOAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06699791014768878559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-67413716759694693962013-08-06T12:25:30.804-07:002013-08-06T12:25:30.804-07:00You were, and still are, a wonderful mom. That sh...You were, and still are, a wonderful mom. That shines through in your beautiful writings.<br /><br />I thought this post from another blog might interest you. It's been 5 years since this lady lost her son but this particular entry, she mentions him having a mild case of flu shortly before passing away.<br />http://learnedfromdaniel.blogspot.com/2009/10/was-it-guillain-barre-syndrome.html<br /><br /><br />Prayers and hugs to you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-68210137825597848232013-08-03T22:49:59.485-07:002013-08-03T22:49:59.485-07:00I'm so glad you wrote about your counselor! I...I'm so glad you wrote about your counselor! It's been nagging at me for weeks to ask you about how that is going, and each time I see you I forget to inquire! My heart swelled with joy upon reading your initial review. What a God send to find someone that can hold your hands as you walk this road. I'm looking forward to hearing more about the insights and encouragements you might gain from this experience. And yes. Sigh. As Caleb reminded me that his birthday is in a month, my heart paused. How. HOW! Can it have been a full year. The cycles of the seasons have almost come full circles and the pit of my stomach feels hallow again..... I'm sorry that wound will be torn open new again. I hope that the many that hold you guys dear will embrace you through this. May your dreams be visited by Sunshine....Lacey Jhttp://neohippiemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-41226919341405576092013-08-03T07:27:37.300-07:002013-08-03T07:27:37.300-07:00I think as a society we underestimate a man's ...I think as a society we underestimate a man's ability to show genuine love and concern. I think we, myself included, automatically think a woman counselor would be most suited to understand the devastating path of child loss. I'm so glad you found that counselor. Men have a different perspective on things and it can be so refreshing sometimes. I hope with all my heart that he can make your path more tolerable. Sending lots of love your way. xxxxx<br /><br />LindsayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-80954747040876917342013-08-01T14:17:47.269-07:002013-08-01T14:17:47.269-07:00Jenny, I think about you and Mark a lot and yet I ...Jenny, I think about you and Mark a lot and yet I really don't know you at all! I can't imagine what it is that you are going through. There have been times that I have thought what would I do if something happen to one of my kids and that can only give me a glimpse of what you are going through. <br /><br />I'm so glad that you have been able to find a counselor that you like and feel like there will be progress made. I know they are few and far between out there. <br /><br />Your blog inspires me each and every day to take advantage of the time that we have with our kids. It has also encouraged me to be better at documenting and video taping them!<br /><br />I pray that you and Mark will continue to find healing and comfort in HIS arms as Vienne is!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00216917444901560217noreply@blogger.com