tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post7662845529362563671..comments2023-10-28T06:41:48.950-07:00Comments on for vienne: This sacred placeFor Viennehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14239370029818098079noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-41189356894395355792012-11-27T10:33:29.082-08:002012-11-27T10:33:29.082-08:00So sorry you had to go through that Jenny. I appr...So sorry you had to go through that Jenny. I appreciate your willingness to let us in. To share Vienne with us. It helps to know how to pray for you and Mark. It helps to fall in love with Vienne. Keep pressing on. We love you.Jodi Stilphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17903065580685456868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-1225876077946238692012-11-26T10:00:19.014-08:002012-11-26T10:00:19.014-08:00What is wrong with people! Seriously! No one can...What is wrong with people! Seriously! No one can "fix" this wrong or try to change your grief. This is you and Mark's story and you write it however you need to. I will never stop reading this blog because you keep her alive in every post. I have not lost a child but as a Mother I will support you any way I can. It was good to see your smile on Facebook Jenny, surrounded by true friends. I HOPE you had a good weekend!Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02942586230988039841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-50049783221534850412012-11-24T22:40:19.360-08:002012-11-24T22:40:19.360-08:00I have commented before that though I didn't k...I have commented before that though I didn't know Vienne, I have come to have such fondness for her. And sadness that she is gone. Again, I'm more thankful for, patient with, loving toward my small children... BECAUSE OF YOU and this difficult journey you are sharing. There is no judgement; just solidarity, prayer, tears... From mother to mother. <br />The kind of ugliness inside someone's heart which would lead them to send a grieving mother a mean-spirited message, is very sad and pathetic. I'm sorry that happened to you. You have an army of support here: you were an incredible mom to Vienne, you are still an amazing mom to Ivy and you grieve however you need to. We are here. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-65772778351807090092012-11-24T12:56:11.861-08:002012-11-24T12:56:11.861-08:00Jenny,
Even though we don't know each other ...Jenny, <br /><br />Even though we don't know each other well, my heart is so with you and Mark on this devastating journey. I read your blog because I am moved by how honest and raw you are about the depths of your love for Vienne and your grief in the wake of her loss. <br /><br />The internet is full of trolls...people who will write the strangest, most inappropriate things from the safe anonymity of their laptops. It's bizarre. But I'm so glad you already know that their comments aren't worth the time it takes to read them. That's what the handy little delete button was invented for. :)<br /><br />Keep grieving the way your heart tells you to...it's the only way. And know that there are so, so many of us cheering you on from the sidelines...as you continue to put one foot in front of the other and learn how to live this life without your beautiful girl. <br /><br />With love and prayer and hope,<br />Sarah CaseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-16953674761300862502012-11-23T22:31:05.964-08:002012-11-23T22:31:05.964-08:00Susan ~ This was very encouraging to read. Thank...Susan ~ This was very encouraging to read. Thank you so much. I feel so honored when I hear how Vienne is changing people...especially Moms in how they view their children.For Viennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14239370029818098079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-89985452145160217492012-11-23T22:29:38.177-08:002012-11-23T22:29:38.177-08:00I love you, Brooke.I love you, Brooke.For Viennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14239370029818098079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-4624543844997677212012-11-23T22:29:17.174-08:002012-11-23T22:29:17.174-08:00Thank you, Andrea. This means so much. Truly.Thank you, Andrea. This means so much. Truly.For Viennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14239370029818098079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-2915625366946842742012-11-23T20:47:11.609-08:002012-11-23T20:47:11.609-08:00I feel so privileged to be able to read this Jenny...I feel so privileged to be able to read this Jenny. It is never hard for me to read it because it is real and it is a testament to a mother's love for her child. Of course I feel horrible that you and your family are going through this but so many people stuff their feelings down and never share what grief really is. This could happen to any of us. Ivy will be able to read this when she is old enough and see how wonderful and amazing Vienne is and how much her Mommy and Daddy loved her and know that she has a real, amazing sister waiting for her when we all go home. Your blog is teaching me how to love my daughter differently, deeper than I thought I could and treat each day as the precious gift it is. It has changed my patience level with her and my priorities in life so that my family will ALWAYS come first. I know this blog is for you and I am so glad you are strong enough to articulate your feelings, and the fact that you have allowed others in is a tribute to the far reaching effect that Vienne is still having in people's lives.<br /><br />My heart is sending love and peace out to you always,<br /><br />Susan (Morris)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-43849862182864127342012-11-23T15:29:49.118-08:002012-11-23T15:29:49.118-08:00I have loved reading this blog, even though it is ...I have loved reading this blog, even though it is hard, painful, and so gut-wrenchingly sad at times. But there are many times equal amounts of joy, such tender memories that are filled with so so SO much love and laughter in times past. I have loved getting to know Vienne more on this blog. Don't ever stop writing. Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14769904012663552677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-54626384536197502972012-11-23T14:48:27.320-08:002012-11-23T14:48:27.320-08:00I meant grieve not heal. I meant grieve not heal. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-344984849248145852012-11-23T14:41:31.127-08:002012-11-23T14:41:31.127-08:00I just want to say that I have gotten to know Vien...I just want to say that I have gotten to know Vienne better from all your posts and video's. That seem's to me like you are keeping her memory alive. It is a hard read at times but it is my choice to read it. How selfish can someone be by trying to tell you what you need to do to heal? We all are different and heal in our own ways. I am so happy you write this blog so I can see how you are really doing. Thank you for letting me into your world and letting me share in your memories and feelings for Vienne. What a great mother to be able to keep Vienne's memory fresh with such great writing. She is always on my mind. XOXO, AndreaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-65150178948427616742012-11-23T14:00:02.504-08:002012-11-23T14:00:02.504-08:00There are so many people walking around with hurt ...There are so many people walking around with hurt and pain and grievances and many dont know how to heal or cope with the brokeness they feel. In an attempt to soothe their own festering wounds, they lash out, expecting others to just pull up their big girl panties, clench their teeth and move on. You're doing the right thing, my friend. You're doing this, this grieving process, the way you feel convicted and lead to, and that's why it is right. It is right for YOU. No one gets to tell another how it should look, feel and be 'over'. This wound will never be gone. The scar tissue will always be there, and you will never be back to 'normal', but if you go about this in the way you need to, hopefully this wound will heal gracefully and without 'infection and extensive scarring' if we're going to carry on with the analogy. I love you. Dont absorb the hurtful comments or the ones that rub you the wrong way. Lay them at the feet of your Comforter and ask Him to help you forgive, ignore and move on. LaceyJhttp://www.neohippemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-30324539275797502132012-11-23T12:31:08.671-08:002012-11-23T12:31:08.671-08:00Thank you, Mama. Thank you for your continual sup...Thank you, Mama. Thank you for your continual support and unconditional love. I love you to China.For Viennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14239370029818098079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8455625283347938520.post-81024958757457901722012-11-23T12:20:04.985-08:002012-11-23T12:20:04.985-08:00Sweetheart...You are exactly right. This is your &...Sweetheart...You are exactly right. This is your "sacred" place - and it is sacred to those of us that "enter in". It is our choice and our privilege. I am so thankful for this blog where I can come and be with you...and be with my Vienne...to visit memories and her sweetness...and to share in your deepest, intimate emotions through this. Thank you for allowing us in and sharing with us. Most everyone reading this recognizes the healthy aspect of you having this place to share, to release, to process. As Joelle affirmed...it is good that you are not tucking and hiding. That approach sets one up for a really bad outcome in the future when things eventually arise to the surface - generally in destructive and unhealthy ways. This is healthy. Tom and I know first hand the fragility of this journey...and that it can be a very long journey. And even we manage to step on one another's toes through this, as everyone's grief journey is unique to them. It's a learning process for all.<br /><br />I am so sorry that someone felt a need to criticize unkindly. It most likely stemmed from that person's own issues - though highly inappropriate. And yes, they should just not enter into this sacred place. It is a choice...and again, a privilege, to join you here.<br /><br />I missed our Vienne yesterday. Her absence is loud. I am thankful and grateful for Ivy and Miriam and the joy they bring when they enter the room. I am so thankful for these little sweet gems.<br />I love you, my daughter, my friend. Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16278680402563880162noreply@blogger.com